Do all aspects of your life feel the way you would like them to feel?
It really takes a lot of courage to acknowledge that we are not really feeling the way we want to feel. Of course, things don't always go our way, but it is important to feel that our lives are moving in the right direction overall, that there is light at the end of the tunnel, that we have enough clarity to take the decisions we want to take, and that we are not stuck. And that is the journey we embark on when we start counselling. It is a journey of discovering where we are, what strengths, challenges, and opportunities we may have, and what we can do to get closer to the life we want to enjoy.
The journey starts with a free confidential in-person (if you are near Skelmersdale) or online consultation in which you will have a chance to talk about what is going on in your life and what your goal is. It is a great opportunity to meet and discover how we both connect.
If you prefer to work on a specific issue over email, we can look into that possibility as well.
What kind of issues can you bring?
We can explore whatever matters to you, such as stress and anxiety, low self-esteem, problems in decision-making, relationship problems that involve somebody on the autistic spectrum (click here to visit my dedicated page on this kind of relationship), codependency, work/life balance, loneliness, anger management, loss, health issues, etc. I am also happy to incorporate the wisdom from nutritional medicine and complementary therapies if that is something you are happy to explore.
I firmly believe that you are the expert in your life. My ultimate goal is to help you become more aware of the whole of your being.
I am a member of the ACCPH and you can see my profile here
“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”
Curiosity corner: is it loneliness or aloneness?
We feel lonely when we don't seem to be getting the amount of contact or affection we feel we need. It is an uncomfortable, sometimes even distressing, experience.
We can also find ourselves in a situation where we feel nobody can understand us and we wonder "Is there anybody resonant out there?"
Some people describe what they call 'alarmed aloneness', which is basically a response to a perceived stress or distress in which we feel nobody can understand us any more. For example, we may be in a group, somebody may react strongly to something we said and we start feeling small, maybe even anxious, as if we don't belong any more. It is an overwhelming feeling. One simple but important step in the direction of overcoming this response is to stay with whatever you are feeling, that is to say, not to abandon yourself (which is a good idea no matter what).